Trust The Process No Matter How Difficult It Is

Former Liberian President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf is credited with the saying,

"If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough."

My dreams scare me. Big time. And it's not because they are big enough, no. I fear what other people would say in case I failed. You know that little voice at the back of your head that taunts you? Yes, that one; it keeps conjuring up images of people talking and laughing behind my back, and that almost always stops me at my tracks. Luckily, I don't give in to that voice else I wouldn't be where I am today.

Come to think of it, that same voice doesn't show me images of people applauding my success in case I sail through. It also doesn't assure me that those imaginary people making a mockery of my failure are struggling with their own failures. See how we often are our own enemies? Psychologists call this phenomenon the imposter syndrome - a psychological pattern in which one doubts one's accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud"

As the CEO of Dana Logistics and having received several awards such as the Commonwealth Young Woman Entrepreneur of the year award, my journey, just like anyone else's, has been rout with hiccups.

But how do I pull myself out of these hiccups to emerge on the other side victorious, the bruises and scratches notwithstanding? I remind myself that it is part of the process just as success is part of the journey. It is less about the destination and more about the journey itself.

Winston Churchill aptly said, "Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." I agree.

And since failure is a part and parcel of the journey, I, ironically, wish for it to come earlier in the journey because then I have enough time to pick myself up and continue with the journey.

When I was starting out my logistics business, I was swindled all the money that I had saved to start my business. I fell down, I cried my eyes dry and when I was done, I picked myself up because that's what counts and that's the best thing you can ever do to yourself. When you fall down the eighth time, you pick yourself the ninth time, dust yourself off and keep moving.

In everything that I have done, every step that I have taken in my life to be where I am, I have made sure that it is about me, and I have absolutely fallen in love with the process. It is this mentality that has kept me going even when the road gets tough, and in business, even when it's a dry season, I will still keep moving because of my love for the process.

I constantly remind myself that overnight success is not really overnight. I have to pay success tax including fears, discouragements, failure, loneliness, and intimidation among others.

And when I look back, it is not to see the barriers that threatened to stop my journey, but to see how far I have come and to appreciate the journey. This progress is only counted in the number of years put in, the sweat, the hard work, the sleepless nights, and the consistency.

Always remember that results are on the other side; only the courageous who cross the long bridge that does not look stable meet with success.

I am still on that bridge and I want to be on the other side of the bridge someday. If that's your dream too, then let's journey together.

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